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Dear R & R


I wonder how old you will be when you read this. Are you now both moody teenagers or strappy young men? Wherever in life you are at the moment, I hope that the following words will help guide you and provide you with perspective on life in general.


Be kind - to yourself and to others. A kind word or act goes a long way in making this world a better place. So be kind even when you don’t feel like it. 


Self belief- Believe in yourself as much as I believe in you; ideally even more. When you believe in yourself you can overcome the biggest of challenges that life inevitably presents us with. 


Truth- Always speak the truth. Yes, even when you’re in the wrong. Fight for the truth so that justice is granted. Telling the truth will ensure that you always have peace of mind. 

 

Say No when you need to- It’s important to set boundaries for yourself and saying no facilitates this process. Do what you need to do but don’t get burnt out. Nothing is worth it. 


Choose something you like doing and pursue it with all your heart. A sport, a craft, an art. Whatever it is, it must give you joy. Let it be something you turn to not just when you feel sad but also when you’re deliriously happy. 


Learn how to cook and clean - These are important life skills. Don’t for one second be cheeky and take advantage of your gender in this patriarchal society. Do not expect anyone to pick up after you. You need to rely on yourself, always. 


Make at least two solid friendships- Friends that you can really rely on in time of distress. Friends that will be non judgemental and have your back always. Lifelong friendships are rare but I hope that you both are blessed with true friends. 


Be empathetic- try to always perceive any given situation from another’s perspective. The world needs more empathy and I know you both will make it a better place with your thoughtful, sensitive ways.


Look after your health - It’s true; health is indeed wealth. Eat well, exercise, destress. Life can sometimes get overwhelming but always prioritise your health. I learnt this the hard way.


Finally, always be there for each other, look out for one another. Life’s moments are always better shared 😘


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