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Are You A Tortoise Mom?


I was recently reading the ‘Hare and Tortoise’ story to my sons and couldn’t help but ponder about the characteristics of a tortoise. As I began reading into these, I inferred that perhaps I’m a ‘Tortoise Mom’. You may have heard of a ‘Tiger Mom’ I.e. one who pushes and pressurises her kids to achieve high standards of academic and extra curricular status mainly via an authoritarian parenting style. Now, a tortoise mom takes an entirely different approach and here’s why I identify myself as one: 


Slow and steady : Akin to the story, tortoises are in fact slow and steady. 

As a mum I have always taken my time in carrying out various tasks be it feeding or potty training. The readiness of my children for various milestones is of prime importance. It’s very easy to fall prey to discussions on various mum groups and forums and feel rushed. That’s when my inner tortoise emerges and provides perspective. 


Tortoises can Hold their breath underwater for a long time. Although I can’t do this, I would like to think I’m resilient. Looking after two boisterous toddlers with zero support amidst 3 national lockdowns, without entirely losing the plot is evidence enough. 


Tortoises are conservationists- when water is scarce they retain water waste and excrete only solids thanks to their double digestive tract. As an individual, conservation is second nature to me. I have my own mum to thank for this. She always taught us to make the best of what we have and minimise waste. I’m trying to do the same with my sons. Small but important steps like reducing plastic, reusing stuff and recycling material go a long way. My 3 year old is almost adept at segregating waste so I think I’m doing something right here! 


Tortoises are methodical, use gaze following to learn from behaviour of other animals. Those who know me well will tell you I have a methodical approach to most things. I’m guilty of trying to find method in the madness that motherhood sometimes is e.g. if my toddler is going through a phase of throwing anything and everything  within his reach, I will give him a throwing activity. Also, I’m a huge believer of behaviourism - kids model what they see so I make sure they’ve got an effective role model (well, most of the time!)


Finally, tortoises go into their shell. Whenever I’m too overwhelmed with everything around me, I take some time out to introspect. I do things that help me recharge- a shower, walk or cup of tea. Being an introvert, I do go into my shell more often than not. As an introvert mum, books and reading time help me survive when the stimulation is more than what my constitution can take. 


Are you a tortoise mom? Or any other animal you can relate to? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section. 



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