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On Your First Birthday Dear Second Born

Thank you...


For making me realise that there is enough love in my heart for you and your big brother 


For helping me appreciate the pace of nature and the beauty of time


For giving me grace when I am exhausted and spent when both you and your big brother need my attention at the same time 


For your reassuring smiles and satisfied burps 


For your giggles that warm up the cockles of my heart and give me the strength to carry on on days that are challenging beyond measure


For making me more aware of my own strengths and weaknesses in equal measure 


For making me push my boundaries and at the same time, reigning me back in with your pure love and innocence 


For looking at me with so much trust in your eyes when my own faith in myself sometimes wavers


For bringing so much joy and happiness in a year that desperately needed some cheer


For reiterating the importance of family and the magic of this beautiful institution 


For the awe and adoration that you have for your big brother 


For your lessons in patience, a virtue that I’m slowly beginning to embrace 


For humouring me as I revel in all your firsts. For your firsts dear one, will be our lasts.


Finally,   on your first birthday, I want to tell you this. You maybe second born but never for one moment feel that you are second best.


















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